Being Loving or Being Love? That is the question…
Giving and receiving love. Isn’t it what life should be about?
However, this very concept is ignored on a daily basis.
First because of “priorities”: we have to earn a living, deal with daily issues, etc… No time for something as mundane as love. And true enough, the bare necessities must be fulfilled. But isn’t love part of these ‘bare necessities”?
Second, “love” is often mis-interpreted. The emphasis is often kept on physical love, and the heart is forgotten about. And when self-love is mentioned, we’re reminded that we should be humble, “don’t you be selfish, now”, “love thy neighbours as yourself” (not “more than” youself… ), etc…
By the way, “as yourself”, what does this really mean?
I’d like to share with you a beautiful thought about self love.
“Also, let me explain that there is a difference between “being loving” and “being love”.
Being loving means giving love to another whether you have any for yourself or not. It means giving what you yourself may or may not even have to give. This type of giving of love can eventually drain you, because we don¹t always have a limitless supply. And then we look to the other to replenish our pool of love, and if it is not forthcoming, we stop being loving ourselves, because we are exhausted.
Being love, on the other hand, means loving myself unconditionally so that it overflows, and anyone and everyone around me just becomes an automatic recipient of my love. The more I love myself, the more it flows out to others. It almost feels like being a vessel for love to flow through. When I am being love, I don’t need people to behave a certain way in order for them to be a recipient of my love. They are automatically getting my love as a result of me loving myself. So to stop being love, to me, means to stop loving myself. Hence, I will not stop being love on account of another.”
The author of these words, Anita Moorjani, was admitted in an hospital in Honk-Kong early 2006, with a cancer so advanced they said she wouldn’t see the morning. And indeed, she was declared dead. At least from a mechanical point of view, if I may say. Anita went through what is known as an NDE – Near Death Experience. She came back to life with a completely new outlook on life, and on healing.
If you want to know more, share her very contagious joy by viewing this video.
You can also read a detailed interview here.
On a similar topic, you might also enjoy this article : Is it selfish to be happy?