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whether we use Matrix Reimprinting or regular EFT, we still have the possibility to find relief, even though the road towards it sometimes feels long and winding. Returning to the source gives us an interesting bonus though, allowing us to unplug any potential future similar stress!:-)
A lot of trauma, whether small "t" trauma or big "T" Trauma,happen around school, whatever the age. What about tapping them out right when it happens, or at least as soon as possible after that? Here are a few ideas to help our children.
- Facilitate EFT at school:
All around the world, EFT is more and more present at school. I enjoy watching this video and sharing this teacher's smile every single time. Look around you, you might well find a practitioner who is specialising in children and who is available to help your children, maybe directly within the school itself.
- Tap to help the child (or teen, or young adult student...)
Here are two free tapping scripts which could inpire you. The first one Learn easily, might help the focus when learning and doing homework.
The second one, Ready to sit the exam!, is aimed at the preparation of final exams.
Adapt these to your needs, they only provide guidance and support.
- Share your successes!
In my experience, "do what I say, not what I do" doesn't get us very far. ON the other hand, lead by example can open many more doors. Here are examples that can help you or your children.
Tessa was only 9 when 2 EFT sessions got her back to the grades she expected. Il is interesting to note in this case that nobody was to "blame". It simply happened in the school environment. Read more i
Norma is a mature student, but she shows us that the stress of exams can be removed even before the exam. In this case, it's even more stressful than sitting an exam, as she had to present her work in front of a jury. Read more.
Ger is no longer at school, but his experience of school and the work we did about it might bring some light on situations you or your children might be experiencing. Read more.
Parents, teachers, uncles, aunts, grand parents, or simply friends, and particularly when you already know in your own experience what EFT can bring you, I hope this reading comes just at the right time to allow you to help our children to build a better world, starting with their own joy and peace!
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When people ask how you are, I mean people who are not necessary very close to you, but close enough to care, notice their reaction, when you answer.
My observation was :
* If I say "wonderful", the answer is usually, "great", and there is no other comment. Nobody wants to know what could be making me happy. That makes me sad!! :-)
* If I say "not too good", the answer is usually, "Oh dear, what's wrong?". This is very caring, and I appreciate it. However, maybe it would be a good idea for me to hear about their happiness instead of going through my own disasters agaaaiiinnn?
I discovered a program on the French TV (from early 2012, I think), which stopped after 3 shows. Cause: not enough audience. Topic of the program : "Little secrets of happiness". I was shocked, particularly because I would consider most of its content mandatory for public health. It should be paid for by social security / health insurance if you ask me. If only because they gave a lot of tips I have been giving to my clients for a while, so they can't be all wrong! If you feel like practicing your French, you can find it on youtube here.
In the same idea, we hear daily about clinical studies about a problem, such as stress, diseases etc... But how often do you hear a clinical study about a solution? There are studies about the positive impact of relaxation. That article form the University of Maryland Medical Center provides a good review of the impact of relaxation on our health.
But my preferred one is this one : "Dynamic spread of happiness in a large social network: longitudinal analysis over 20 years in the Framingham Heart Study". In plain English : "is Happiness contagious?"
And guess what the conclusion is: " People's happiness depends on the happiness of others with whom they are connected. This provides further justification for seeing happiness, like health, as a collective phenomenon."
This study involved 4739 individuals followed from 1983 to 2003. You'll find all the detail you want on the British Medical Journal (BMJ) website
Therefore, what about being selfishly happy? We can all do something for our direct neighbours: let's see the happiness in our lives! What made you happy so far today? Did you say "thank you" or felt gratitude for it? What about taking a minute to find out right now?
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Let me suggest a 4 steps action plan over the next 4 days, starting today.
First Step: Activate gratitude and acknowledgement.
For those who are interested, there's one word in French which entails these 2 aspects : “reconnaissance”. So English is Easier and clearer in this case.
Think back about your year. Could you identify 10 things for which you are grateful, or for which you can acknowledge your own strength, creativity, achievement etc...? Things about which you could actually say “I am proud of myself”?
If you can't think of anything obvious off the top of your head, start with “small things”. The kind of things which are so “obvious” that we might forget that if we didn't have them, life would be quite different. E.g, do you have a roof over your head? Is that a reason for gratitude? Or at least to feel safe and express gratitude. Maybe this is not the ideal roof, maybe the neighbours are a problem (I know some of you will smile on that one!), maybe there are financial issues, maybe the place could benefit from a few jobs. But if you had no roof at all, how would you see someone in your current position? Aren't you lucky?
Staying on the same topic, if you have a place you can call home, can this be because you have been able to create it and keep it? Maybe this is reason to acknowledge yourself for that achievement?
Maybe 2014 is the year you got to learn about Eft, or maybe the year you got to really get serious about it and benefit from your work. Another reason to congratulate yourself?
There there are more specific events. Maybe you survived really difficult times, a bereavement, maybe several for some of you. Maybe were you strong enough to overcome a disease or at least some aspects of it? Maybe you uncovered in yourself strengths you didn't even know you had? Another opportunity to pat yourself on the back, or to be grateful if you received help form people, medical treatments, etc...
Take your time and find 10 of these positive views about your past year, at this time of a closing year.
Write them down and... tap along! One point per event/situation, in front of the mirror would be a good idea.
In my case it could be :
Top of the head: “Christine, you are lucky to have a home! Thank you!”
Eyebrow: “Christine, you can be proud you improved on the regularity of your newsletters this year” (OK, anybody raising your hand to signal that this is far from perfect, please hold it, this will be addressed in step 2! For now, try and look at your year through rosy lenses)
Handing it back to you!!
So get your pen and paper, put on rosy lenses and get tapping! I'll meet you again soon for Step 2!
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If you'd asked me that question when I was in a deep clinical depression, I might not have even heard it, or I might have answered in some general way, something like “to be healthy, to have a family, a job, a house, money”. But it is not a topic I would have spent too much time on, I was far too busy with very important things, such as grocery shopping or going to work, those kind of things.
Since then, I've met lots of people who would react the same way. And yes, when we're drowning in daily obligations, or deep into disease, financial issues, a toxic, violent or simply dull environement, happiness seems OK for other people, but we can feel we're just lucky to manage survival. Better not look any further, we might lose the little we have.
So let me ask again: if happiness was delivered to your very door, what would it look like? Think about it for a minute. Explore the idea...
What if YOU could, all by yourself, create all that only you imagined?
No, this is not a joke, there are so many things you can do today, or more specifically RIGHT NOW, to create what you consider to be Happiness. You could start tapping of course, but not only that.
I came across a French TV program, that I believe should be published and paid for by WHO (Not just any “who”, the World-Health-Organization-who!). Their aim was to “make most recent scientific discoveries about happiness available to all”. It was called “Their secrets of happiness”. Sounds appealing to me, no?
However, they had to stop the programme after 3 episodes... because of a lack of audience. It makes you wonder... Do we (as in French people in this case) really want the tools to find happiness? A friend highlighted that maybe it is that people who are really ready to take ownership of their happiness are not in front of the TV anyway. Fair point.
But what about you now? Are you interested in creating your Happiness?
Here are a few comments I've heard from clients :
- “ When everything is fine, I seem to need to create new problems”
- “if my problem ever gets solved, something else will happen” (something bad, supposedly!)
- “I can't be happy when I see all this misery in the world”
- “I could never be happy because...”
The list is endless. What is your list?
I invite you to ask that "happiness question" the same way a child asks “why”, again and again: "what if happiness was possible for me?”, “what is happiness like for me?”, “I wonder how I would feel , if I was really happy?”
Stay tune for a tapping script on this topic in a few days!
Meanwhile, may I wish you a wonderful “Happiness Growing Day”?
PS: If you're interested in happily practicing your French, you'll find programme number 1 here
Such a programme probably exists in English, I just don't know of any. If you do, would you let know?
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Everybody knows that flu is highly contagious. And don't even mention gastroenteritis, and and...
And surely tapping cannot prevent viruses from propagating, can it?!
Maybe not... Even though... Everybody do their best to protect themselves from contagion. Obviously, there are the elementary hygiene rules. But besides washing your hands regularly, avoiding sneezing all around, having a balanced diet, getting fresh air etc... did you ever ask yourself what's so special with people who are not affected by contagion?
I ask myself that question every winter, and every winter, the topic shows up at some stage with a client. The latest occurrence was with a nurse. A very knowledgeable person when it comes to contagion issues.
The session was actually about hating receiving "ultimatums". Whether we are talking about a professional ultimatum, about a test for a student, or about a relational situation matters little, the word "ultimatum" conveys much stress. So we explored many aspects of it.
Almost at the end of the session, while I was asking Aurelie (not her real name) to assess her level of stress, she told me "as I am really feeling queasy, it is really hard to focus. There is gastroenteritis around at the moment ".
In other words: "there is gastroenteritis around, thus I am queasy.". That is what I would call well anchored programming.
As it is not the subject, we continue to tap around this "ultimatum", and in particular focussing on the physical tension which she was still feeling and the possibility of seeing things in a different light. While tapping Aurélie comments on one of my suggestions: "if everything was solved just by saying it-s-easy-just-do-it, people would know about it!".
This round ended with:
I'm opening up to the possibility of removing my scepticism and of giving myself a choice
the choice of well-being, of feeling relaxed, at cellular, intellectual and even emotional levels. Thank you!
And then, surprise! "I'm feeling less queasy!".
How come, "less queasy"???
In response to my jokes, Aurelie clearly explained a feeling of discomfort: "I'm feeling uncomfortable because I said something and now...". And now, a different truth came to light, in complete opposition to her professional training and experience. Although Aurelie is not a newcomer to the wonderful world of EFT, that was pushing the boundaries of her established truths a bit too much!
Two rounds and less than ten minutes later, Aurelie attested she no longer felt queasy at all, and felt perfectly relaxed indeed, including in relation to the "ultimatum", and the conflict between the sensation that she just experienced and what she had considered to be an established truth.
This kind of situation occurs regularly and leads me to suggest a few topics you might want to explore:
How do you react to this belief that "there is influenza/gastroenteritis etc.. around, therefore there is a risk for me."?
What impact does your reaction have on your stress level?
And what impact has your stress level on your immune system and your energy level on a daily basis?
What if it was time to reconsider your thoughts about this kind of contagion?
Can you quote other "beliefs" of this kind that affect your well-being?
If you could change these beliefs, what would you choose?
Please share your findings with this tapping material!
As usual, do visit a physician for any medical condition.